Today is the second day of In The Moment magazine’s challenge: #loveyourselfweek. And today’s challenge is all about Positive Thoughts.
In the Moment explain on their website:
Negative thoughts can wear you down and become difficult to ignore. It’s important to remind ourselves that we don’t need to cling to our past mistakes – that we are not our mistakes. Start the day by finding a positive affirmation to inspire you – you can find a few on our Pinterest board.
You can find the rest of their article on their website by clicking here.
Positive Quotes: Love ‘Em or Meh…
Personally, I love a good ol’ positive quote. Admittedly, I use them a little like horoscopes. When a horoscope is beautifully positive or reflective of what’s going on in my life, I’m more than happy to believe in it!
On a more serious note though, I do think we can train ourselves to be more positive. That’s not to say I’m positive all the time. Far from it. Just last week, I had a week of being grumpy and fed up with not having a completion date for our move to France. I was SO grumpy and positive quotes did nothing for me. But I think I needed that one week of letting myself be grumpy. The trick is to not make a habit of it.
Positive Thoughts Practice
As with many things, being positive can take practice. No one seems to agree on exactly how long it takes to make a new habit. Generally though, it’s all about keeping at it, and eventually, through the repetition of the new action, it will become second nature and you will notice when you don’t carry out the activity. When it becomes second nature, it can then be said that you’ve made a new habit.
Same goes with positive thoughts. Introduce positive quotes in your daily routine. Whether it be by reading out loud a card from a pack (see below), writing a positive quote in your journal when you wake up, having some prints up on your walls or updating your Pinterest board daily, find a way to make yourself read positive quotes everyday. It’s a great way to start the day!
It’s also a great activity to carry out with kids. My 7 year old is currently going through a phase of being rather negative, and fails to see the positive at times. I bought her a little pack of affirmation cards, and one of her favourite activities is for us to each list 5 things that made us happy that day at bedtime. My youngest, who’s 4, joined in with us tonight, and having the three of us focus on what made us happy in the last 24 hours is simply lovely, and helps calm them down at bedtime too. The power of positivity and gratitude.
I am hoping that if I can give them tools to deal with their emotions and focus their thoughts on being more positive, it will help them deal with more difficult phases of life, as it does for me.
Positive Thoughts Resources
I have various sources for quotes to help me with positive thoughts. I’m always adding to the list, but here are the ones I’ve been using so far and recently:
Deck of Cards
I also have an inspirational deck of cards from Gabby Bernstein. I love these, they look beautiful, and they also have beautiful, inspiring messages. More often than not, their message brings me comfort and a little peace as I breathe in and out, and repeat the affirmation out loud. There are a few available for sale, the one I have is this one.
I also have a few packs of affirmation cards from YesMum. Similar to the ones above in a way, these cards focus on the act of positivity every day, simply by reading out loud a card a day. They’re really great. I have two packs for myself (original and boss). I have bought them for a friend, and got the mini pack for Siena.
They have lots to choose from, and aren’t just for mums, so do take a look at their website.
I love a good book about self love and exploring life and happiness. Most of them cover positive thoughts too. Here are a few that I have read, or that I am currently reading:
- The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin
- Judgement Detox: Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living a Better Life, Gabby Bernstein
- The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself, by Michael A. Singer
- Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything, by Elizabeth Gilbert
- Happy: Finding joy in every day and letting go of perfect, by Fearne Cotton
- The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k, by Sarah Knight
And I haven’t read Make Someone Happy and Find Your Own Happiness Along the Way: A Creative Kindness Journal by Emily Coxhead, but I love her work and Instagram account.
Prints are a great way to have positive thoughts up on your walls, meaning that you see them everytime you walk past them. I have one in my living room which is a personal quote, and I also bought loads of Sunshine for Breakfast at Christmas, ready to hang in our new home in France… flowers and positive quotes, what’s not to love!?
I consider positive thoughts to be a big part in my journey of self love. I know that they are not an instant, magic solution to life’s problems. But I do believe there are a great way to start your day. And being able to see the good in people, in life, being able to see the silver lining, even if not straight away, whether it be that same day or years later, has always helped me.