We’ve been on lockdown mode for five weeks here at Emerald and Jade HQ in France… As with most people, we have spent this time baking, homeschooling, catching up with DIY jobs, moved all the furniture around (anyone else’s partner hates it when they do that? I love it!) and generally wondering what exactly is going on and how we all got here in the first place! As the weeks go by, we are settling into this new form of normality… I think…
We still have three official weeks of confinement before schools are expected to reopen, and businesses hope to progressively get back into the swing of things…
We’ll see… We’re not entirely hopeful, three weeks isn’t all that long really is it?
In the meantime, many things have been placed on hold on our day to day life, whilst we wait for things to improve in the outside world. And for many couples, this includes their wedding.
Some of my clients have already emailed me with their decision to postpone, and I have thankfully been able to confirm their new dates for 2021.
Some of you may be wondering what to do, should you postpone your wedding or not.
Should I Postpone My Wedding?
It’s such a tough decision, but on the whole, I do believe that if you had planned to get married in France this summer, it is probably wise to postpone your plans when you can, and rebook your wedding for 2021.
On the whole, I feel that the wedding season for 2020 is likely to a write off. I don’t say this lightly, as for the vast majority of wedding suppliers, it is the wedding season that brings in the vast majority of their income for the year. As such, as for so many people in the world, this year’s situation due to the coronavirus (and lets not forget the dreaded Brexit too) brings many financial worries.
As a couple getting married, lockdown and the impact of the coronavirus brings forward many other unknowns, making it difficult to know what will happen this summer.
I have listed below reasons why I think it is wise for couples getting married in France to postpone their wedding.
Why Should I Postpone My Wedding?
- Travel – There remains a lot of uncertainty as to when confinement will be fully lifted, and when the borders will open once again. Summer really isn’t that far from now, April is nearly over, which means July is only a couple of months away. It doesn’t leave long to finalise travel arrangements for certain.
- Vulnerable guests – If you have guests that fall under the “vulnerable person” group, they may be unwilling, or even unable to travel so soon after confirment. Whether elderly relatives, loved ones with chronic conditions making them more at risk, or parents with asthmatic young children. Many couples have chosen to postpone purely based on the risk of not having loved ones present on the day.
- Guests – On a general note, certain guests may be worried about travelling so soon after lockdown. Whether because they are worried for themselves, their children or any other reason, it is possible your guests may not all wish to travel, no matter how much they want to be there for you.
- Increased Costs – There are certain elements that remain unknown for now. As a wedding florist, my main concern, other than my health, related to the cost of flowers immediately after confinement. As with many industries, the flower trade has been severely impacted, resulting in a huge financial loss for the trade. As a result, it is possible that the cost of flowers will increase dramatically once confinement is lifted, to help producers and farmers regain some of their huge losses.
- Flower Choice – following on from the above, it is difficult to know the full impact on the flower market, and whether there will be much choice so soon after confinement.
- More Time to Save – because weddings always cost more than we would like, there’s no harm in saving up a little more towards it, or towards an even more amazing honeymoon!
- Peace of Mind – Do you ever find that sometimes, trying to make the decision is the most stressful process? And once you’ve made your decision, you feel as though a weigth has been lifted as you now know where you stand? Yep, me too. By choosing to postpone, you won’t have to worry week after week whether you ought to postpone or wait another week and see…
How Can I Postpone My Wedding?
As with anything to do with wedding planning, communication is key.
Communication is key…
I would advise you first of all to get in touch with all of your wedding suppliers as soon as possible, to discuss this with them.
Time is of the Essence…
Many of us suppliers have started taking bookings for 2021 weddings already, and with 2020 couples looking to reschedule their weddings then too, it is going to be a busy one for everyone!
So whether you are choosing to postpone your wedding, or whether you were already planning on getting married in 2021, make sure you contact your preferred suppliers as soon as possible.
If your wedding is already booked, ask them if they have availabilities for weekday weddings. Your other suppliers may have more availability then too.
Choice of Flowers…
If your 2021 wedding will now take place a different month than your 2020 wedding, you may not be able to get the same flowers you had initially planned, but your florist will be able to recommend alternatives to you if you wish to retain a design close to the original one you agreed.
Alternatively, you may wish to change your design based on what’s available for your new wedding date. Again, discuss this in detail with your florist and they will be able to reassure you and help you out.
If you choose to postpone your wedding, you may have some suppliers that aren’t available for your new date in 2021 due to other bookings. Whilst not ideal for anyone, unfortunately this may happen. Again, open communication with your suppliers to see whether alternatives can be arranged, or whether they might be able to recommend someone to you. The wedding industry is a big community, especially here in rural France.
A tricky question that arises concerns deposits, and whether it will be refunded to you if your supplier isn’t available on your postponed day.
In short, the answer is no unless stated otherwise, as generally contracts with your suppliers will state that deposits are non-refundable. The reason for this is to cover the work carried out up until then, including the research, communications with the couple and other suppliers, putting together the quote etc. It’s all time, which all costs money.
So if you do lose a deposit with a supplier, please don’t take it personally. Remember this situation is just as tough for wedding suppliers as it is for couples, and they may not earn much of an income this year if the wedding season does not take place.
What if I Choose Not to Postpone My Wedding?
If you decide not to postpone your wedding, it is possible that some compromises may potentially need to be carried from your initial plans, so keep an open mind with your planning.
Check with your suppliers whether they’re all willing and able to carry out your previously discussed plans.
Discuss the situation with your guests, and find out who would be willing to travel and who would rather decline the invitiation in light of current events.
Overall, make sure you communicate with everyone involved in your wedding.
Most of all…
Most of all, if you choose to postpone your wedding, no matter how disappointing and upsetting it may feel now, rest assured that your wedding will all the more special when it can be celebrated with all your loved ones.
I firmly believe that the weddings taking place in 2021 are going to be extraordinary, with everyone wanting to celebrate love even harder, and it is going to be grand!
Have you had to postpone your wedding? Have you decided to go ahead with your 2020 wedding? We’d love to hear from you.
If you’re looking for a wedding florist for your 2021 wedding, dates are filling up fast so get in touch today for a chat and a quote.